notes from a session on 18 February 2019 with Mark from Auckland and Nick Laurence
Nick Laurence hosted a small gathering with Mark, an associate from Auckland, about the emerging future and what it means to be authentic and show-up rather than contrive to be what you think is needed for any given circumstance.
The following key words and phrases arose in the discussion:
- openness
- seeing others
- connecting
- being authentic to who you are
- deep self-compassion and acceptance
- yearning for connecting
- awareness
- connecting to ease
- not hiding / courage
- being with suffering
- equanimity / balanced neutrality
- not shrinking down
- responsibility
- change
- letting go of control
- cutting through
- circling to “now”
- patterns of distorted reactions – finding truth within distortions
- presence as contribution
- commitment
- safety
Mark encouraged the group to connect to their genuine needs and desires and sift them from phantom needs. By connecting to genuine needs, we can be lead to amazing beauty. Identifying genuine needs empowers those needs to be met.
Showing-up means being rewarded for presence rather than knowing, leaving behind colonization and judgement.
Mark
Required Skills
inquiry
Asking our own questions while remaining open to the unknown.
Embarking on that process of inquiry with someone to support or accompany us on the journey.
discernment
Considering what is true and developing a fidelity of discernment to resolve the question of “how do I know?”
practice… integrity
How do I live what I believe to be true?
In order to practice integrity, it must engage the whole body. We are only able to fully live a select number of things to be true to ourselves.
Developing integrity happens through iteration.
collaboration
When collaborating, devoting energy and defining boundaries allows for mutuality and freedom.
Certain conditions support deep collaboration. It is worth investigating what conditions are necessary for each of us.
contribution
Ask yourself:
- where and what are my ways of contributing?
- am i able to do this in a satisfying way?
- what are we trying to avoid?
Notice what you are resisting. Favor embodiment (a tangible or visible form of an idea, quality, or feeling) over projected learning (abstract ideas void of form or application).
Memory and status take us away from living what we need to be now.
The memory of it is not the truth of it.
“vulnerable & in my power”
“stronger web of community”
1. 80% is figuring out if I’m doing what I need to do to show up.
2. If I can’t, who can I ask for help?
There are ways of staying present with reality that we can work with to allow us to collaborate. Bring yourself, without pretense, and see what happens.
Deep collaboration is a hypothesis to address deep adaptation.